Appreciating People As They Are

I’ll never forget the line in Bridget Jones’ Diary when Mark Darcy told Bridget that he liked her. “Ah, apart from the smoking and the drinking, the vulgar mother and… ah, the verbal diarrhea,” replied Bridget. And Mark said, “No, I like you very much. Just as you are.” Isn’t that what we long for, for people to like us just the way we are.

I came across a brilliant quote by Ram Dass, spiritual teacher and author, where he talks about seeing people as trees.

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How to Create a Vision Board

How to create a vision board

Thanks to Mama O (Oprah Winfrey) I learnt about vision boards a few years ago. I have created various boards over the years and last week I was inspired to create another one, so out came the magazines, scissors and glue and I got down to business.

What is a vision board?

It is a board that displays images and notes about the dreams that you have for yourself or things that you want to do or be in your life. It’s a clear, visual reminder of everything that you would like to achieve.

Why create a vision board?

Because it’s fun! How often do you get to cut up pictures and glue them to a board? Perhaps the last time you did anything along these lines was in Primary School. It’s hard being an adult!

Fun isn’t the only reason, in fact it is the probably the least important reason to create a vision board.

The truth is that there’s power in visualising the things that you want to become a reality. One of my favourite stories is of how Jim Carey put into action the power of visualisation. Continue reading

How to get through the lonely moments of your life

How to get through the lonely moments

“Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.”  – Max Ehrmann

I was in London, I had two friends, and they lived an hour across the city. I was lonely, really lonely. I had moved across the world to a city with more than eight million people and I was lonely. During those early London days I spent more time than I’d like to admit sitting in my room, drinking bottles of wine (slight exaggeration), listening to the Beatles singing, “I look at all the lonely people”. I remember thinking, I can’t believe I’m one of them, and this was not how it was supposed to be. It was definitely not how I envisioned my life would look when I had dreamed of moving to London three years earlier.

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How To Make Friends In A New City

how to make friends in a new city

You’ve just moved to a new city. There is so much you want to do, there’s just one problem – you have no one to do things with. And so you get drunk in your room and dwell on your loneliness, telling yourself what a big mistake moving was. You should have stayed where you were. Sure, life was predictable and boring, but at least you had friends!

In my 27 years on planet earth I’ve moved seven times since leaving high school. Each time I’ve had to make new friends in a new city. Sometimes it was easy as I already knew a couple of people who could introduce me to their friends. Other times it was extremely hard.

Generally there’s always a period of at least a few tough months, where you spend too much time in your room dwelling on just how hard it is to meet people that you click with in a new place. Continue reading